LOVE LANGUAGE #4: Acts of Service

Criticism of your spouse’s failure to do things for you may
be an indication that “acts of service” is your primary love
language. Acts of service should never be coerced but should
be freely given and received, and completed as requested.

1. If we really want to serve our spouse, we need to do things
for them the way they would want – not the way we think they
should be done. Seek specifics from your spouse on a few new
tasks he or she desires of you, and do exactly as instructed.

2. Choose three humble tasks that you don’t especially like but
know your spouse would be pleased to see completed.
Surprise your spouse by doing them without being asked.

3. Do you struggle with ingrained attitudes about gender
role stereotypes – “women don’t grill” or “men don’t do
bathrooms”? Honestly discuss where these ideas come from,
and look at your own expectations in this area.

4. Pick four tasks that you wish your mate would do for you.
Be ready to receive the same, and work out adjustments that
are based on mutual love rather than coercion or a legalistic
swap. Keep practicalities like schedule in mind.

5. Remember some of the acts of service you performed for
each other during courtship – and how they drew you together?
See if your relationship can be rekindled by serving one another
as you did pre-marriage.

Taken from www.fivelovelanguages.com.