How to Put the Sizzle Back in Your Marriage

Taken from www.associatedcontent.com


A few years ago I talked to a group of women between the ages of twenty and forty-nine who sounded dissatisfied with their marriages. "I'm bored because we never have any fun together," one woman complained. "We haven't had sex in months," moaned another. "We spend too much time fighting," several women agreed. "He spends too much time with his friends-and we've only been married for six months!" said the youngest in the group. I've also heard men make similar comments. People just don't seem to be happy in their marriages. Complaints are coming from every direction. In my experience, the problem comes from taking each other for granted. When two people take each other for granted, they take the sizzle out of their marriage. Here are some examples of how you can put the sizzle back into your marriage.

Appreciate your spouse as often as possible. Pleasing, loving words will make your spouse feel good about themselves-and you. Some examples are: "I love you." "I enjoyed the dinner you cooked." "You look handsome/beautiful." "You did a wonderful job keeping things clean." "I love it when you're on time."

Follow up your words with loving actions. Surprise your spouse with flowers, love letters, gifts, favors, or anything else you know they would appreciate. Be creative. This way your spouse will know you care. Never forget special occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, and Valentine's Day. Otherwise, your spouse may think you don't love them.

Spend intimate moments together. Don't let the passion fade from your marriage. Physical intimacy brings two people closer together. Sometimes it may be difficult if you're tired, busy, or preoccupied. But don't let your problems or energy level stop you- make time to be intimate anyway. Make an appointment if necessary. I know it may sound silly, but at least that way you know you're both committed. When you do become intimate, take your time. Explore and enjoy each other's bodies. Moving straight to the sex may cause feelings of frustration and disappointment.

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